Working alongside parents
“To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today” Anonymous
Parents play a central role in their child’s life and are often the most important person in supporting their emotional, mental, physical health. Whilst parenting is one of life’s most rewarding experiences, at times it can be one of the most challenging.
Some parents often long to be parents but are worried and don’t know the ‘how’. But where do they go?
PIP Solutions recognises that there are a limited range of interventions that parents can access when their child is accessing child-centred therapy; also dependent on services available within the locality. Acknowledging that parents are pivotal in their child’s development and well-being, PIP Solutions believes that effective parental engagement by the Therapist can support the parent to understand the complexities of emotions and thoughts that may be expressed by their child.
Parenting may also trigger painful memories or experiences from one’s own childhood. Furthermore, parents will often use their own parents’ style or method of parenting on their own children because they feel it worked for them. PIP Solutions believes that if parents can explore their feelings about how they were parented, they can learn to embrace or to let go of what they value.
Bridging the gap and involving parents when their child is accessing therapy is a core aspect of ‘Working with Parents for Child Centred Therapists’. Building relationships with parents through empathy and understanding is essential as they often feel (or have been made to feel) a ‘bad parent’ because of what they feel about themselves or have been told by family members/professionals. Providing care, guidance and psychoeducation for parents will better support the dyadic components of the parent-child relationship. The Therapist will help the parent gain insights into themselves by using strategies, developmental knowledge and coping skills.
‘Working with Parents for Child Centred Therapists’ will assist Therapists to begin a process with parents to break patterns and replace them with more positive alternatives. The Therapist will be alongside the parent and individualise the consultations to help the parent to navigate the ‘bumps in the road’ that they may experience with their child and within the parent-child relationship.